12/06/2010

Uncommonly Kind

Every time ABC Family does Harry Potter weekend I get excited. It's just like when the Charlie Brown Christmas special comes on - it HAS to be watched as it's aired. It doesn't matter that I own it on VHS or DVD or Blu-Ray, it only matters that it's on the TELEVISION.

This past weekend, Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban was on in the background while I was doing some mindless computer maintenance. I looked up when Harry and Professor Lupin stand on the bridge talking things over (while everyone else has gone to Hogsmeade).

The part where Lupin says of Harry's mother, "She was uncommonly kind."

I wish I was uncommonly kind.

I'm not. If you need snarky, I'm your girl. If a situation desperately needs a tension breaker - namely someone to act like a big dork so nobody else feels like a big dork - call on me. (Shockingly enough, sometimes that happens when I don't even mean for it to ....)

But I'm not uncommonly kind. I get bitchy when people do things like cut me off in traffic or stand too close to me in line at the movie theater. I don't have a lot of tolerance when it comes to a lot of things: not getting answers when I want them, not being paid the kind of attention I "think" I deserve, or when I want someone to do something immediately and they don't.

Frankly, the list of unkind things I do on a regular basis could stretch to New Guinea and back.

But it's the holiday season, right? The new year is coming, and it's time to think about things we'd like to change, things we want to do better in the future.

I'm going to try working in some uncommon kindness.

What about you?

25 comments:

  1. Hmm, yes, this would be a good New Year's Resolution to make! To not just be kind but uncomonly kind.

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  2. Christine Glover12/06/2010 09:49:00 AM

    I love this post. And it is true. I wish I could be "uncommonly kind." But I get ticked off at injustice and people getting in the way, too. I will try harder!

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  3. It's hard to remember sometimes that we never know what someone else is going through.

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  4. It would! I think I'll break it though, probably shortly after midnight!

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  5. I'm not uncommonly kind either.

    I'm that person that you can generally count on to leave you with a smile. But I doa pretty good job of keeping my pissed-offedness hidden deep.

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  6. Well, ain't that special. It et my comment.

    AHEM.

    I disagree with you....in that I think doing dorky things to make someone else feel better IS uncommonly kind. It's probably the most kind thing anyone could do--make someone feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation.

    We all get bitchy and we all get irritated when things don't go our way. That's what makes us human, makes us different. The idea isn't to be perfect, it's to do our best.

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  7. I am pretty kind in front of people, but I could be a little kinder at home. :) I think I have less patience with my own family than with others.But they will love me unconditionally, right?
    So I will count to ten before being a referee of my children and let the kindness overflow!
    Also, Azkaban is my fave of the HP series.

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  8. Uncommon kindness seems very uncommon, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I don't really see myself as uncommonly kind either, so I guess we can all work on that. Something I plan on doing is paying for the person behind me in the Dunkin Donuts drive-thru or at a toll booth. It's the little things that people seem to appreciate.

    Happy holidays!

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  9. Carolina Valdez Miller12/06/2010 06:50:00 PM

    I try to be uncommonly kind and often come up short. It's not easy to be Melanie Wilkes. I don't know that it's even possible. But I think the important thing is to try our best.

    Such a great line from HP, isn't it?

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  10. I'm the master of snark and snarkastic. Definitely could work on the uncommon kindness - especially this season!! Thanks for the reminder :)

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  11. I am not uncommonly kind, either. DH and I have had this exact discussion. We both know people who just have that gentle, sweet spirit, and I envy it sometimes. But, at the same time, I think it's hard to be uncommonly kind and not be uncommonly walked-all-over. It's a trade-off.

    And, let me tell you from experience, you are truly kind. You probably have a high bar when it comes to justice and a strong sense of right and wrong, and that's okay. Because you have wonderfully kind to me, and helped lift me up when I needed a boost. You didn't HAVE to. And it meant MUCH more to me than if someone randomly stopped and just said a kind thing in the supermarket. Don't sell yourself short.

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  12. Wow, is it time to work on resolutions already?! Ugh! I must protest, I think you are uncommonly kind, you're just real about it. :)

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  13. I came over from Matthew Rush's blog to meet you. I'm MUCH older than most bloggers (and about to be published authors) and you, but I still love YA novels. It's my favorite genre next to memoir. I'm very interested in keeping in touch with you. You and your family sound intriguing. You live not far from me and my disabled daughter (we're in Virginia), although we grew up in the West, in the desert. I'm trying to learn how to subscribe to blogs through these different ways--email, RSS, etc. They're boggling my aging brain! I do, though, try to be kind. The only I've gotten, the softer my voice has become, though I have to admit there ARE times on the road when I lose it!!

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  15. I STILL don't understand RSS feeds. I do most of my reading from the Blogger dashboard, and I'm trying to stay current. I am having trouble!

    Nice to meet you, Ann!

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  16. (((hugs))) YOU take uncommonly kind to the next level, Missy.

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  17. I am constantly in awe of those sweet-spirited people. It's like they don't have to deal with drama because they don't inspire drama.

    And you've cheered me more times than you know, often with your snark. So THANK YOU.

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  18. We will do it TOGETHER. :D I like snarkastic, too, btw.

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  19. OMG MELANIE WILKES. That is so perfect.

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  20. That is such an AWESOME idea.

    Also .... donuts.........MMMMM.

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  21. I definitely could be kinder to my family. Sometimes I forget how much I wanted my boys, and when I look at them through those eyes instead of taking them for granted it definitely helps.

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  22. I concede, you're right! You're a smart one, chickee.

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  23. I can keep it hidden sometimes, but then all the ugly comes flying out at once.

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  25. I respectfully disagree with you. You have been uncommonly kind to me. And most often at a time when I needed it most.

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