I do feel like I need to provide a little clarity.
As wonderful as yesterday's post made the love between us sound, sometimes my husband and I think it all might end in a cage match. Or like this:
I agree with Janet - writing isn't a solitary pursuit. If you're in a relationship, your other half will have to make some sacrifices. They don't always do it willingly.
In an ideal world I would've just said, "Hey, Mac, I'm gonna write a book, yo," and he would've said, "Sweet. I'll take the boys off your hands every night when I get home from work. Also? The cooking and cleaning? Don't sweat it."
It didn't go down like that. In fact, until I got my first full request from an agent, I kind of think he thought I was putzing around on Facebook until two o'clock in the morning.
It all comes down to this: No one will write your book for you. In those late hours when your eyes are crossing and you think you might cause bodily harm to yourself if you have to edit that freaking paragraph one more time and you discover you're out of coffee AND Twizzlers and your youngest wakes up at the butt crack of dawn so you really should go to bed, the only thing that's going to pull you through to write the next page is you.
I very firmly believe I am called to be a writer. It became a reality for me the day I went face down on the floor in my laundry room, burst into tears and SUBMITTED to the fact that no matter the outcome - I had to try.
Terrifying. Committing to a calling, committing to a page, committing to the possibility of FAILURE. For me, there's a little spark that won't be denied. I can't stop.
I won't stop.
The support of friends and family is icing on my "sparkalay" cupcake. If you don't have that support, GO YE TO TWITTER and get you some. Seriously.
The writing community is amazingly supportive. No matter your age, gender, race or religion, we're all in the same boat. You can always find someone whose process is like yours, or someone whose process is better. We're not reinventing the wheel. How many paranormal avenues are out there? How many ways can a fictional detective solve a crime? How many ways can a couple make ...
Writing is solitary because YOU have to make a choice, every day, to continue the pursuit. Writers are a community because support exists, whether it involves real life relationships or virtual ones.
If you need an example, look at my blog post from yesterday.